On Thursday of this week (October 25) Kathleen and I will find out boy or girl with baby number two. I must admit, my curiosity is too strong to be like some who can hold out until the day the baby arrives. I’m a planner, and so I must know ahead of time how to prepare…pink or blue?
Many have asked, “What are you hoping for?” To be completely honest with you, I believe within every father there’s a desire for a son. I’m not going to pretend as if that’s not true for me as well. I will be completely happy with whatever the Lord has given us, but one day I do hope God gives me a son (it will be a little more inexpensive on me if the child is a girl…we’re already loaded down with pink!).
Boy or Girl?
What’s interesting to me is how disappointed some parents and grandparents can become when they discover the sex of the child is not what they had hoped for. Don’t get me wrong. I don’t believe it’s wrong to hope for or want a particular one. But to go as far as to experience feelings of anger or even become depressed?! It‘s LIFE! How can we be upset that God has given us life? If it takes me ten children to get a son (Kathleen is not laughing at this moment), I’m not going to be disappointed that nine of them are girls. I guess when you have lost children like we have it doesn’t really make a difference whether it’s a boy or girl. It’s life, and we will love the child and be grateful for what God has given us.
As long as they’re healthy…really?!
Has anyone ever said this to you, “Boy or girl…it doesn’t matter, as long as they’re healthy?” Really?! As long as they’re healthy? So, if we discover Thursday that the child is not healthy does that mean my love for our child will change, that my hopes for him/her will diminish, that I won’t be as excited as I am now? Yes, I do pray for the health of my children and I pray God gives us healthy children; however, we need to think about what we tell others. Maybe instead of saying, “As long as they’re healthy,” we should say, “We are praying for the health of the child.” I know that giving birth to an unhealthy baby presents its challenges, but it’s life and we are to love the life that God gives us.
My point is this: boy or girl, healthy or not…I will love our child the same because it is a gift and blessing from God. No need to be disappointed or depressed. It’s life…and God is in control of it!
Psalm 127:3, “Lo, children are an heritage of the Lord.”